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The Covert Narcissism Podcast
Renee Swanson
Categories: Education
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Are you trying to decide if all you are going through is "normal," or if it is fair and reasonable?In the last two episodes, I have talked about the codependency traits that so many victims have in common and the eternal victim role that covert narcissists play. These two things get trapped together so incredibly often.On one side, you have a person who does no self-reflection, no self-improvement, and no internal work. Instead they express out all the ways they have been hurt in life. The abuse they suffered as a child. The mistreatment from parents, siblings, friends. The abuse they suffered from previous relationships, leaving them “broken” and insecure. The ways that everything you say hurts them, reminds them of their past abuse, resurfaces their hurt self. The eternal victim!On the other side, you have a person who desires to care for others. To build other people up. To help others become the best they can be. To “fix” them. To save them. Willing to do the extra work. Willing to give the benefit of the doubt. To carry extra blame so the other person doesn’t have to. To carry your own load and half of theirs too. To look at your own smallest faults and blame these over the massive faults the other person displays. To hold yourself accountable for everything, while letting them off the hook for anything.This is NOT a good combination! Works out great for the covert narcissist, who does none of the work and does anything they want all the time. It is horrible for their partner, who does all the work and never does anything they themselves want. I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse. •Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone? •Are you searching for people who get it? •Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do? •Are you running in circles in your mind? •Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them? •Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world? I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse http://www.covertnarcissism.com https://www.tiktok.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.youtube.com/@cngreneeswanson https://www.facebook.com/renee.covertnarcissism
Previous episodes
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270 - Compare the Life of a Covert Narcissist With the Life of Their Victim (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 05 Sep 2024 - 0h
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269 - Trauma Brain and Covert Narcissism Sat, 31 Aug 2024 - 0h
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268 - Turning Your Life Around with Special Guest, Stephany Ann Thu, 29 Aug 2024 - 0h
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267 - 7 Ways to Protect Yourself from Covert Narcissism Sun, 25 Aug 2024 - 0h
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266 - The Eternal Victim Role of a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 22 Aug 2024 - 0h
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265 - Dealing With a Covert Narcissist Sun, 18 Aug 2024 - 0h
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264 - How My Codependent Tendencies Led Me Straight to a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 15 Aug 2024 - 0h
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263 - Renee Swanson, Not a Therapist Sun, 11 Aug 2024 - 0h
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262 - Entitlement - Feeding That False Self of Covert Narcissism ( Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 08 Aug 2024 - 0h
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261 - The War Zone of Living with a Covert Narcissist Sun, 04 Aug 2024 - 0h
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260 - A Deeper Look at Passive Aggressive Behavior (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 01 Aug 2024 - 0h
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259 - Can We Negotiate with Covert Narcissists? Sun, 28 Jul 2024 - 0h
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258 - The Mixed Up Emotions As The Relationship Ends (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 25 Jul 2024 - 0h
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257 - Covert Narcissists Need a Supply and a Scapegoat Sun, 21 Jul 2024 - 0h
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256 - First Steps of Healing From Covert Narcissistic Abuse Thu, 18 Jul 2024 - 0h
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255 - I Don't Know Myself Anymore after Dealing with Covert Narcissism Sun, 14 Jul 2024 - 0h
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254 - Raising Awareness for Covert Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser Thu, 11 Jul 2024 - 0h
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253 - Covert Narcissists are Adult Bullies Sun, 07 Jul 2024 - 0h
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252 - When Friends and Family don't Understand Covert Narcissism Thu, 04 Jul 2024 - 0h
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251 - Covert Narcissism and a Diagnosis Sun, 30 Jun 2024 - 0h
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250 - With Covert Narcissism, I Am NOT Okay. Thu, 27 Jun 2024 - 0h
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249 - Apologies from a Covert Narcissist Sun, 23 Jun 2024 - 0h
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248 - This Was Never About You (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 20 Jun 2024 - 0h
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247 - Healing from Covert Narcissistic Abuse Sun, 16 Jun 2024 - 0h
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246 - Self-Care After Dealing with Covert Narcissism Thu, 13 Jun 2024 - 0h
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245 - What Covert Narcissists Say and What They Actually Mean Sun, 09 Jun 2024 - 0h
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244 - What is Cognitive Dissonance and What to do About it (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 06 Jun 2024 - 0h
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243 - Covert Narcissism: His Trauma Became Our Trauma Sun, 02 Jun 2024 - 0h
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242 - Financial Abuse Disguised as Compassion Thu, 30 May 2024 - 0h
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241 - Exploring a Different Perspective of Codependency with Ross Rosenberg Sun, 26 May 2024 - 0h
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240 - Scapegoating and Financial Abuse from a Covert Narcissist Thu, 23 May 2024 - 0h
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239 - The Emotional Dysregulation of a Covert Narcissist Sun, 19 May 2024 - 0h
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238 - Removing Trauma From the Body (Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 16 May 2024 - 0h
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237 - The Isolating Dynamics of a Covert Narcissistic Relationship Sun, 12 May 2024 - 0h
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236 - Grasping Covert Narcissism (Special Throwback episode) Fri, 10 May 2024 - 0h
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235 - Our Kids Suffer When We Suffer Sun, 05 May 2024 - 0h
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234 - The World Enables Covert Narcissists Guest episode with Sarene Leeds Thu, 02 May 2024 - 0h
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233 - How do I move forward? Q&A with Eleanor Marks Sun, 28 Apr 2024 - 0h
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232 - It’s a Yo-Yo Relationship Thu, 25 Apr 2024 - 0h
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231 - 7 Ways that a Covert Narcissist Reacts Sun, 21 Apr 2024 - 0h
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230 - Tackling Tough Questions with Eleanor Marks Thu, 18 Apr 2024 - 0h
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229 - Are compassion and empathy the same? Sun, 14 Apr 2024 - 0h
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228 - Guest episode with Brandon Chadwick from Narcissist Apocalypse Thu, 11 Apr 2024 - 0h
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227 - 3 Effects of Covert Narcissistic Parenting Sun, 07 Apr 2024 - 0h
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226 - Covert Narcissistic Parents are Bullies Thu, 04 Apr 2024 - 0h
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225 - Stopping the Self-Doubt to Become Narcissist Resilient Sun, 31 Mar 2024 - 0h
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224 - Victims Often Join the Abuse Themselves ( Special Throwback Episode) Thu, 28 Mar 2024 - 0h
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223 - The Terrifying Narcissistic Traits in Our Children Sun, 24 Mar 2024 - 0h
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222 - Blame Shifting - A Powerful Tool for the Covert Narcissist (Special throwback Episode) Thu, 21 Mar 2024 - 0h
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221 - Strengthening Your Narcissist Immune System Sun, 17 Mar 2024 - 0h